Bringing The MUCHNESS Back!

Today is my ANNIVERSARY!!!!! WooooHooooo!!! 5 years ago today I married the love of my life, Elie. Look got hot we were:

But more importantly, look how hot my shoes were!!!

I glued every one of those suckers to those shoes by hand. Those shoes were the centerpiece of my day. I guess the more things change the more they stay the same, huh? 😉

Anyhooooo, I didn’t buy Elie a present. Not even a card. Partly because I’m selfish and distracted and partly because we’re just not that into that stuff. I’ll get him a card when I run out to pick up my coffee. And then I’ll give it to him and he’ll “aweeee” and then it’ll go on his nightstand and that’ll be it. I think it mostly boils down to the fact that we are both more savers than spenders, but if either of us wants to spend money on ourselves or each other, we do, and unless we see something the other person will love and appreciate and NEVER get for themselves, why bother? In 2009, for a combo birthday / anniversary gift he bought me the $800 camera I was craving (actually, he bought me a camera ‘like’ the one I was craving… see- I almost wish he hadn’t surprised me so I got to pick the one I wanted, but he’s great for doing that anyway) and that same year I threw him a surprise birthday party. (At this point, I’d link to a post I did about the party, but that disappeared in The Great Server Crash of ’11)

Last night, he bought me a The Digital Mom Handbook: How to Blog, Vlog, Tweet, and Facebook Your Way to a Dream Career at Home "" “>
The Great Server Crash of ’11 has really put some things in perspective for me. I have SO many ideas for this site, for this brand, for The Muchness. But the one thing I have that the two women who wrote the book do not have? A Full Time Job. That means, when they had an idea, they implemented it. When I have an idea, I have to wait till I have the time to implement it. And Boy, do I have ideas!!!!


OK. I started this post at 8am and now it is 8pm. That’s how life goes. Not all posts are built at once. I have to get my ideas and thoughts out when I have them even if it means stopping mid thought. And clearly that was mid-thought. And though I am still stoked about all I wrote above, now I’m having a  hard time getting my thoughts back in the same writing groove… So I’m gonna end this post. Have a great evening!!!!!

PS- I never did get coffee, nor did I get Elie a card. But I’m pretty sure he still loves me anyway…

Rebuilding… One Muchy Brick at a time….

Thanks for sticking by while I get this site back to full Muchness speed. I’ve been able to collect some of the text of my lost posts and recreate them so they are not gone forever. I work hard on a lot of those posts and it’s sad that they may never be seen or heard from again.

If you are a challenger or former challenger and you want to collect your posts from google, you may be able to do that. Go into google and search for plus your names 30 days of Muchness. The more specific you are, the better. Then, the posts will pop up, but if you click on them they will go to an error page. You have to click on the word “cached” that appears at the end of the link, Or, right click “cached” in the scroll down menu that pops up when you hover. Then, the page will open and your text will be there. You can copy and past it into a word document or into a new posting page. But you gotta add the pic back by re-uploading from your computer.

If you want to go through the trouble of doing this, I’ll send 1,000 air kisses your way!!! (but if you don’t I won’t be upset… I love you for participating in the first place!!! xoxoxoxox)

(If you have trouble logging in, let me know. I’ll fix your account.)

Where is the Muchness? Part 2

I am sitting here, heartbroken. I don’t know what to say. I don’t know what to do.

My site went down for two days. I know, in the online world, technical glitches happen. The company that hosts this site, WestNIC as well as almost all my husbands sites, which are his business – his income – reputation, peace of mind…. The hosting company had a server error. I was patient. I waited. This morning, my site went back up. Today is October 19th. The most recent post online was from September 3rd. It was like turning the hands back in time to open the page and see it like a snapshot of history. Still, many of the links were not working and I told myself they were still in the process of restoring the site.

I was wrong.

Elie informed me that he had spoken to a company representative (who was rude to him!!!!) and he was told their server and backups were damaged and the most recent activity that they can restore only until September 3rd. September THIRD! That is a lifetime ago!!! ENTIRE 30 day challenges are gone! GONE!!!!! My new header and design and buttons are GONE! I’ve sent out publicity kits to TV shows and they are going to come look at the site and it is going to appear outdated! I am so upset!!! The company claims there is nothing they can do and they don’t take blame. Elie has ENTIRE SITES he has paid to create and build in the last 8 weeks that have VANISHED. He was running a contest on his main site The TCM Directory (which is thankfully hosted by a different company) and the prize was a fully pre-built website. THE WEBSITE PRIZE NO LONGER EXISTS!!!!! He has clients who rely on him to manage and host their websites- boom. All their info- GONE.

I’m just devastated. Hours and hours- TWO MONTHS of all our work- GONE in a blink.

I just don’t even know what to think.

I mostly want to apologize to the AMAZING women (and AJ 😉 ) who contributed to this site in that time. September was an amazing month on this site and it breaks my heart that it is gone. I… I just….. I just don’t know what else to say.

Thanks for sticking by me. This is TRULY a MAJOR MUCHNESS KILLER.

If you are a contributor to the site, please feel free to post something Muchy. I need a pick me up. … If you signed up to take the challenge, and are in middle of it, you may not be able to log in, as any account created after Sep 3 has vaporized. Please drop me a note and I will re-sign you up.

I’m sorry. I’m so, so sorry. :’-(


Originally posted by TOVA on SEPTEMBER 19, 2011 / Reposted after The Great Server Crash of ’11

We often hear that there is no word for a parent that loses a child. A child that loses a parent? Orphan. A woman that loses her husband? Widow. But a parent that loses a child? Best they’ve come up with in the english language is the term babyloss mom / dad / parent. When I type babyloss I get little red dotted line under it because my computer thinks there must be an error. There is an error. It’s called babyloss and it’s a problem far bigger than my computer can solve with a spellcheck button.

Tonight I learned that there is a word for it. A word for a woman that loses a child. Two years I have been a babyloss mom. And I never knew there was a word for it. The word is Mishakayla. It is hebrew. The  hebrew language has a pre-existing word for us. It’s an acknowledgement of our status. I like it.

I also like that today my factory gave me a whoooole bunch of new Muchness bands that I’d been waiting for!!! New colors!! New prints!!! New Causes!!! I’m working on some stuff on and as soon as it’s ready, I’m gonna have a MAJOR re-launch event!!! Stay tuned!!

Mishakayla written in Muchness Bands. Just seemed kinda appropriate!

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Tine September 20, 2011 at 12:47 am

I love it! And I can’t wait to order one icon_smile.gif
And really, how wonderful that there is a word for us icon_smile.gif



Tova September 20, 2011 at 8:17 pm

Tine- you can order one- I’ll be sending out a few on Friday so if u make it in under the buzzer….. icon_smile.gif



JenM September 20, 2011 at 9:13 am

One thing that I found is that there’s a special word for a woman who has given birth to twins- gemellipara. I like it because it doesn’t say anything about parenting twins, and it makes me feel special because no one can argue with the fact that I have given birth to twins.



Tova September 20, 2011 at 2:31 pm

Wow- I never knew that. I love it!!! That english word might be more difficult to pronounce than the hebrew one! haha



Heather September 20, 2011 at 10:14 am

Oh i love this….i have always stumbled on the word babyloss for the reasons you posted. is this pronounced Mish-uh-kay-lah or Mish-uh-kai-luh? great post. great use of the muchness bands. xoxo



Tova September 20, 2011 at 2:29 pm

Heather- The first one… icon_smile.gif I was planning to do this with the word MUCHNESS for a Muchness Madness Post…I just didn’t have enough bands in stock. Now I can do it! icon_smile.gif



LellowOne September 20, 2011 at 3:24 pm

Ilove all the colors and I love that word. It sounds soft and stronger the same time. Can’t wait to order mine!